As moms in this day and age, we often feel pressures to be many things at once. Some of us were raised by strict parents and perhaps we are trying to approach our own parenting roles in a more liberal fashion. So the question is, “do I need to be my child’s friend?” My answer? “How has it been working for you so far?”

If you have been approaching your mothering as your child’s friend, but there are problems arising, that is your signal to do something differently. The role your child needs you to take will ebb and flow and change many times. So if being a friend is not working, it is okay to become more of an authority figure. It is okay to revamp your parenting blueprint to fit the current needs of your child.

I invite you to reframe your perspective on being a friend to your child. Let’s explore what being a friend means. Being a friend sometimes means telling someone the truth even when the truth is hard to hear. Being a friend can mean taking a stand when it’s in the best interest of your friend. Being a friend is not always about going along with the other party 100%. So when you are parenting your child in a way that makes her “hate her life” and groan and moan… you might actually be being her true friend at that very moment. Will he or she see it that way right now? Not likely. But soon, they will thank you for giving what they needed, and not necessarily what they wanted.

If you want to enlist the support of a parenting coach, be selective. Shop around because your parenting life coach can play a key role in the results you see in your life, as a parent. As a professional with a background in early childhood education as well as coaching, I believe I bring the best of both worlds to my clients. Ask questions when you speak to your prospective parenting coach and get a feel for their style. Armed with your instinct and some information from your perspective parenting coach, you can achieve the results you want for your parent/child relationship.

When you dress well and maintain a well groomed appearance, you convey to others that you care enough about yourself to keep a well attended to appearance. When you live in a clean and tidy environment, it shows others that you value yourself enough to want your space to be neat and attractive. This list could go on and on. This is not to say that we all walk around well dressed and with no hair out of place, 24/7. But you get the idea.

How about the things less material? What do you convey when you put yourself last or when someone is habitually late to appointments with you, but you say nothing about it? Maybe you always say yes to every request made of you. Or perhaps you allow people to remain in your life who often say negative things to you. As humans we model our behavior after others in many situations. If people see that you do not treat yourself in a way that says you value yourself…. they will probably treat you the same way.

I believe around 90% of issues we face as adult women can be connected to our self worth concepts. I believe that with a higher value placed on self, your perspective will shift dramatically. But learning to see your true worth and value can be easier said than done. That’s where I come in. As a life coach for women, I help you to find your true value and to build on that value. Having a personal life coach or a spiritual coach can make a difference in your life. Want to know more? Email me at jenny@thelifecoachforwomen.com and set up a free consultation phone session!

Jenny Good – the Life Coach For Women

We tend to be busy people. We have a lot on the “to do” list, on any given day. That being said, carving time for silent time or personal reflection can be hard to do. What if it didn’t require 30 minutes or an hour? What if just 10 minutes a day would change your life? I am telling you that is the case!

The key to making the most of your ten minutes is to be silent and not micro-manage your thought process. This can be easier said than done, so it may take a bit of practice. This is okay and very normal. You might want to set your watch or a kitchen timer to alert you to the end of your ten minutes. Relax and let your mind go where it will. Truly pay attention to your thoughts, your mental questions, and your mental answers as well. If you do this daily for 2 weeks, I believe you will begin to experience more clarity, confidence, and less anxiety.

I would like to invite you to take what I call the Ten Minute Challenge! Ten silent and unstructured minutes per day for 2 weeks. If you accept this challenge, I invite you to comment back on how it helped you or affected your life. If you prefer to share this information privately, you can email me at jenny@thelifecoachforwomen.com

Self discovery and spiritual coaching are greatly complimented by taking those few minutes to be still with yourself each day. I look forward to hearing your experiences!

Jenny Good – I provide unique Spiritual and Personal Coaching for Women.

There is hope and choice available to you. No matter what life transition you may be working through, you can come through it stronger, wiser, and better. As a life coach for women, it is my role to support you and help guide you in your journey through transition. Together we can collaborate to find the best possible solutions, the brightest paths for progress, and to emotionally nurture you as you move through your transition.

Some examples are women in life transitions are:

There are many more transitional situations, of course. Without transition, you would not be here right now. Transition can be a stepping stone to better things. You can choose how you will experience your transition. You have that power. If you are interested in speaking with me about how women’s life coaching can supprt you in your own life’s transition, I would love to hear from you. Contact me at: jenny@thelifecoachforwomen.com

All The Best,
Jenny Good – The Life Coach For Women

I found this interesting article on life coaching and thought I would share it with you. I am pleased that CNN is noticing the coaching profession. I think the article did a super job on explaining what life coaching is about.

I love working with women who want to make a life transition into a place that will excite them and reward them. I love coaching people and feeling them walk away a more empowered and happy version of themselves. I love my job. And that to me, is success.

If you want to test drive women’s life coaching you can email me to set up a free coaching consultation. In it, we will explore how life coaching may be of use to you. Contact me at: jenny@thelifecoachforwomen.com

All The Best,
Jenny The Life Coach For Women

I began thinking of an article I had read that dealt with the concept that we teach people how to treat us. In some cases that isn’t true. We don’t exactly teach someone to rob or rape or assualt us. But in many cases I think it’s true. Those people who kept getting more and more comfortable with taking advantage of me, were being taught by my actions or inactions, that they could treat me that way and that I would allow it. Maybe they even thought I was so stupid that I didn’t see what they were doing. I did see it. Even then I did. I just kept waiting and hoping it would change. Maybe I was afraid that calling them on their actions would make them walk out of my life. But as I reflect on it now…. so what? What loss would that have really been to me? None. Any human being who is in your life simply for what they can gain from you, ought to have their behind bounced to the curb, anyway.

So this person who brought this all back to me today…. was someone who has taken and taken from me and given very little in return. This person avoided me when my son died unexpectedly, and later apologized. I forgave them but I realize that in the face of hardship they won’t be there for me. Since that realization, this person has rarely been in my life at all. In light of that, it took some nerve to ask me for something at a time when they know I am dealing with some hardships myself. Now I believe in giving of yourself even when you’re hurting or going through changes and strife. I believe in being the thing you want from others. But I also believe I am worth something and I believe that I have to look out for myself too. So when I politely declined this person’s request, I was proud of myself for not saying “I’m sorry.” Used to be, I would have apologized when I said no. But then I was like…. why would I? I did nothing wrong to him by saying no. So I feel i’ve grown a little because saying no was ok and I didn’t feel the need to say I was sorry for looking out for myself.

It feels a lot better to not be someone’s doormat than to save their feelings at the cost of my own.

Many of us as women feel guilt around saying no to people. Often we agree to things that leave us in a bad mood or feeling upset because we really didn’t want to give this thing of ourselves.Sometimes the people who are doing the asking don’t even realize it bothers us. Other times they sense it but because we place their needs above our own, so do they! So if someone isn’t respecting you or your feelings or your time, stop and look at what message you are sending them.  Honor yourself and the people who matter will honor you as well.