June 5, 2009
When was the last time you sat in total silence and did nothing but allow your mind to wander where it would? You may have sat and thought with a purpose about how to solve a specific issue at work, or maybe you sat with your Ipod on and relaxed. But when did you just do nothing and let your mind guide your thoughts to just “wherever”?
We tend to be busy people. We have a lot on the “to do” list, on any given day. That being said, carving time for silent time or personal reflection can be hard to do. What if it didn’t require 30 minutes or an hour? What if just 10 minutes a day would change your life? I am telling you that is the case!
The key to making the most of your ten minutes is to be silent and not micro-manage your thought process. This can be easier said than done, so it may take a bit of practice. This is okay and very normal. You might want to set your watch or a kitchen timer to alert you to the end of your ten minutes. Relax and let your mind go where it will. Truly pay attention to your thoughts, your mental questions, and your mental answers as well. If you do this daily for 2 weeks, I believe you will begin to experience more clarity, confidence, and less anxiety.
I would like to invite you to take what I call the Ten Minute Challenge! Ten silent and unstructured minutes per day for 2 weeks. If you accept this challenge, I invite you to comment back on how it helped you or affected your life. If you prefer to share this information privately, you can email me at jenny@thelifecoachforwomen.com
Self discovery and spiritual coaching are greatly complimented by taking those few minutes to be still with yourself each day. I look forward to hearing your experiences!
Jenny Good – I provide unique Spiritual and Personal Coaching for Women.
May 19, 2009
I am often asked about what types of clients hire me to coach them. The short answer is: functional people who want to get somewhere in life other than where they are right now. That could mean they want a new careeer or to drop 20 lbs. or to be a better parent or to market their soloprenuer business. The reasons one might seek a life coach are endless, but the type of person is always the type who wants MORE.
I found this interesting article on life coaching and thought I would share it with you. I am pleased that CNN is noticing the coaching profession. I think the article did a super job on explaining what life coaching is about.
I love working with women who want to make a life transition into a place that will excite them and reward them. I love coaching people and feeling them walk away a more empowered and happy version of themselves. I love my job. And that to me, is success.
If you want to test drive women’s life coaching you can email me to set up a free coaching consultation. In it, we will explore how life coaching may be of use to you. Contact me at: jenny@thelifecoachforwomen.com
All The Best,
Jenny The Life Coach For Women
May 15, 2009
Today a situation caused me to reflect back on my relationships or friendships, from my past. I started to see more clearly how those people had often borrowed money that never got paid back. How they got more comfortable with asking and more comfortable with calling it “can I have” instead of “can I borrow”, because I kept letting it slide and not speaking up. In actuality we should not have to ask for what is owed to us, but the sad fact is sometimes we have to ask if we ever wanna get it back. It wasn’t just money either. Sometimes it was my time or feelings that were taken for granted.
I began thinking of an article I had read that dealt with the concept that we teach people how to treat us. In some cases that isn’t true. We don’t exactly teach someone to rob or rape or assualt us. But in many cases I think it’s true. Those people who kept getting more and more comfortable with taking advantage of me, were being taught by my actions or inactions, that they could treat me that way and that I would allow it. Maybe they even thought I was so stupid that I didn’t see what they were doing. I did see it. Even then I did. I just kept waiting and hoping it would change. Maybe I was afraid that calling them on their actions would make them walk out of my life. But as I reflect on it now…. so what? What loss would that have really been to me? None. Any human being who is in your life simply for what they can gain from you, ought to have their behind bounced to the curb, anyway.
So this person who brought this all back to me today…. was someone who has taken and taken from me and given very little in return. This person avoided me when my son died unexpectedly, and later apologized. I forgave them but I realize that in the face of hardship they won’t be there for me. Since that realization, this person has rarely been in my life at all. In light of that, it took some nerve to ask me for something at a time when they know I am dealing with some hardships myself. Now I believe in giving of yourself even when you’re hurting or going through changes and strife. I believe in being the thing you want from others. But I also believe I am worth something and I believe that I have to look out for myself too. So when I politely declined this person’s request, I was proud of myself for not saying “I’m sorry.” Used to be, I would have apologized when I said no. But then I was like…. why would I? I did nothing wrong to him by saying no. So I feel i’ve grown a little because saying no was ok and I didn’t feel the need to say I was sorry for looking out for myself.
It feels a lot better to not be someone’s doormat than to save their feelings at the cost of my own.
Many of us as women feel guilt around saying no to people. Often we agree to things that leave us in a bad mood or feeling upset because we really didn’t want to give this thing of ourselves.Sometimes the people who are doing the asking don’t even realize it bothers us. Other times they sense it but because we place their needs above our own, so do they! So if someone isn’t respecting you or your feelings or your time, stop and look at what message you are sending them. Honor yourself and the people who matter will honor you as well.
May 11, 2009
Picture this: the baby is fussy and it’s time to leave to pick up your other child from school. On your way to grab your shoes you spot the mail you forgot to drop at the post office earlier. You toss it into your bag, get the baby, and then…. where are your keys?! Retracing your steps you find them (in the fridge) and head out the door with baby under one arm and purse under the other. As you pull away from your house and try to catch your breath, you applaud yourself for only being ten minutes behind schedule. That’s better than yesterday.
Sound familiar?
Now shift your focus for a moment to “that one woman” you know. We all seem to have that one friend who has time on her side. She never arrives late, looking disheveled. Her children have clean faces. Her life is organized. And somehow she finds time to go to the salon. So what does she have that you don’t have?
Believe it or not – nothing! She has managed to find her empowerment and clarity and in that she has found a way to manage her time and her life. You have the ability to do the same thing. It’s just a matter of getting clarity, doing some personal “house cleaning”, and learning to honor your self and your time. The desire to achieve a balance between work/personal life/and family is one of the most common reasons that women seek out a personal life coach. In about 45 minutes, 4 times per month, you can get clear on what matters to you, set up structures to ensure your energy is expended in the most efficient way possible, and learn to make room for some YOU time. When you invest in your own well being, you give a gift to everyone who depends on you.
Contact me at: jenny@thelifecoachforwomen.com
